Another week, another let’s talk about seshh..! I have received a lot of positive feedback in personal messages on Instagram and Snapchat regarding my last post – and I want to thank you for that! Also, my views on the blog have doubled within a short time; amazing! I have noticed there are a lot of unspoken topics out there, that everyone seems to shy away from or only talk about in an ideal, oh-so-perfect(non-existent)-way, although it is something absolutely normal. We all deal with more or less the same problems in life (speaking jealousy, cheating, our love life, honesty, work-life-balance, etc.), yet no one talks about the negative sides. Or let’s say that most people try to demonstrate their best side only and don’t want to show the unpleasant side of things. I want to talk more about these things – and bring some honesty (and my personal opinion) to you.
So here we go: Honesty. It is such a simple term and so easy to achieve. Simply be honest, speak with your heart and don’t make a scene that is unnecessary. What seems easy, however, is rather rare nowadays.
Honesty is so important. I am a true believer of being honest – and it is what makes people be honest towards you. Yes, there are always people out there that won’t be honest or like to keep certain things in the dark. That is to say, everyone should have their secrets; it’s what makes people interesting, too. What I don’t approve of, is lying.
Honesty makes your life so much easier. Think about it, whenever you make up a lie or try to hide something from someone, it all becomes so much more complicated. You have to keep up that lie, always have to portray yourself in a way that isn’t completely you. It’s just so tiring. Personally, I am a huge fan of honesty. And quite honestly (ok, repetition on the go here!), I have noticed people in my surrounding adapting to my feature. They say people that care about you mirror your way of acting – of being, almost, that is. Meaning that if you are honest to your surrounding people, chances are they will be as honest towards you.
With all honesty, however, come boundaries we should not forget. If you’re best friend asks how she looks in that new dress of hers – and let’s pretend she looks rather like a sausage – tell her. Now, that does not mean one should be rude, but one can honestly say that it is not the best fit, or that a different dress is so much better looking. Know your boundaries, it’s so important! On the other hand, if you aren’t feeling it anymore with your significant other: be honest. Don’t make a fuss about it, but be honest about your feelings and why things have changed. Again, this does not mean one has to be rude about doing it.
This brings me to honesty in relationships. With relationships I don’t only mean your boyfriend, girlfriend, spouse or loved one. I mean family relationships, I mean work relationships, friendly relationships and even the relationship you have with your neighbor. Most importantly, look at the relationship you have with yourself. Honesty towards oneself is one of the most important characteristics one should have. If you are unhappy with certain outcomes or lifestyle habits then think about why you are in that situation and, honestly, why you are not where you wish you were. I am fully convinced that honesty towards oneself is a key to personal success. With personal success comes joy in life. Voila, we have the perfect formula. Alright, perhaps not all that simple, but you understand what I am getting at. Everyone is one’s own builder of success and having the best relationships with those around us. Nurture your environment and you shall be rewarded accordingly.
Now, let’s zen for a moment and be honest towards ourselves. xo